How to Attract Your Perfect Partner, Part III

I’ve been sharing the story of how I attracted my perfect partner, Dan. Using The Secret and The Law of Attraction, by Michael Losier, I attracted Dan into my life and it has been a wonderful relationship since Day One.

Our first date was lunch at Paradiso Restaurant, in downtown Burlington. We sat in a booth, and it was instant electricity for both of us.  I kept moving closer to him during lunch … I just wanted to be as close as possible.  Needless to say,  it was a great first date. We kissed, and I couldn’t concentrate for the rest of the day.

On our next date, we had pretty much decided that we were going to be together, boyfriend and girlfriend – so I thought it might be interesting to see how Dan stacked up to my Desire Statement written on Nov 25, 2007 (less than 3 weeks earlier):

• My ideal relationship is with a man who is looking for a committed relationship and lives within a 1 hour drive
• My ideal partner is only 6 years old or younger than I am (Dan is 6 years, 3 months younger)
• He is fluent in French and English
• He is passionate, and lives his life with passion & purpose and is working towards financial freedom
• He enjoys being physically active
• He can dream big and has many exciting goals for his and our lives, and he inspires me everyday

That is a summary of what was written on that Desire Statement.  I didn’t know all of these things about Dan within the first few days, but it became evident within a few months how much he fit exactly what I had been looking for. And for those of you who know me, you can see that I share many of these qualities as well – as was mentioned in a comment by Jay earlier this week – in order to attract someone with certain qualities, you must exhibit them yourself.

We are truly blessed to have a wonderful relationship.  We can spend days together and still be very happy (and a bit mushy!).  This is the relationship I have always dreamed of – I chose not to make compromises on what I truly desired and I got it. And yes, Dan feels the same way – perhaps he’ll add a comment at the bottom.  We are open with each other, there are no secrets between us, and we support each other unconditionally. We have been through a lot in the past 2 1/2 years, job losses, apartment fire, change of business, loss of income and yet the one thing that has been stable throughout everything is our love for each other.  It may seem cheesy at times, but it’s a pretty amazing feeling to be with the RIGHT person for each other.

We laugh together!

Last March (2009), while slow dancing at a Nickelback concert, to Far Away, Dan asked if I would marry him.  I said yes immediately and just kept on dancing with him.   We were married on July 12, 2009, at Paradiso Restaurant.  Perhaps I’ll share our wedding story another time.

What I’ve learned through all of this, one marriage that ended, a number of relationships that didn’t work out in between and finally attracting Dan into my life, is that life is too short to be with the wrong person. Yes, there will be challenges in any relationship, and if you are with the right person, you will get through them and move on.  If you are with the wrong person, it’s possible that you may never get through the challenges or issues and the same things may come up again and again throughout your lives together. Everyone’s situation is different and we all have our challenges.  One quick word of advice though – You deserve the best, you deserve to be happy and you deserve to be in your perfect relationship.  And once you realize that in your heart of hearts, you will either be on track to attracting your perfect partner, or suddenly the relationship you are in will become your perfect relationship.

I would love to hear your stories about love and relationships, share your story of hope and love, so that others might be inspired as well.